Fired for misconduct or sexual harassment.
by not a lesbian
I was fired because when joking around in the office I said I had a thought of asking the lesbian if she would come over and eat me. It was a joke. We were all kidding around. I had a different girl grab my boob. Sexual conversations were the norm with staff, but my comment was viewed as misconduct.
All I can say about that, is somebody must of not of thought your comment was as funny as you thought it was at the time. Or maybe someone not involved in the conversation overheard this one remark one fine day and was so offended by it, they thought they should do something for the sake of all employees .. and file a complaint.
Just because a workplace culture if full of, or allows wrong-headed norms to pervade the culture we grow to accept, because we have to work for a living, doesn't mean someone won't find the courage within themselves to speak up on behalf of others they have witnessed being victimized in some way.
Tell me, do you think you crossed a line of any sort here .. once, or more than once .. even if this sort of talk was the norm?
And what do you mean to do by letting me/us know a different girl grabbed your boob? How is that relevant now to the reason you were terminated for. Unless you tell me you had already made a formal complaint about someone touching your boob, and your termination now if retaliatory, for using the fact you made a crass, insensitive comment that could also be called sexual harassment .. I don't see the relevance of what you're trying to get at.
Two clearly wrongheaded examples of inappropriate conduct in the workplace .. do not cancel the misconduct in either out.
Focus on the burden of proving misconduct because to rebut that burden .. you need a viable reason to argue the employer cannot prove misconduct .. and complaining about your boob being touched .. after being terminated, generally won't cut it at an unemployment hearing .. unless you can prove the employer knew about it .. and did nothing to prevent it from happening again .. other than firing you for a lewd comment .. you say was the norm.