I am a woman falsely accused of sexual harassment
Falsely accused of sexual harassment.
I am a 25yr old female who works for the FL state government. I was recently having problems with a coworker who was rude to me. I wrote to my supervisors via email explaining the situation to them.
My supervisors then informed the guy who I had complained about, that I had in fact complained. They didn't tell him what it was about though.
He decided to retaliate and went for blood. He wrote to my supervisors telling them I did all of these nasty sexual things to him or toward him. He also accused me of racially discriminating against him (he's asian, I'm white)
I NEVER did any of the things he claimed I did!
Because I work for the government, they take these things very seriously. The department I work for has its own internal bureau of investigations and its own police department.
They sent an investigator who interviewed me, the man in question, and a few other employees.
During the investigation (which was recorded and documented) is when I found out what this man I worked with was accusing me of. I was shocked to say the least.
The investigation is still ongoing. The man who made these outragious claims against me quit a couple weeks after the investigation. (One of the other women I work with had been having problems with him too and she told the investigator. She believed he was breaking into her house.) I believe this is why he quit. He probably felt like he was going to lose his job if he didn't.
I am now in a situation where I am still being investigated because of these false claims from an ex-coworker who is now 1,200 miles away and I feel that I am being treated unfairly in the investigation.
The investigator is a black man and I feel like he is against me because I am female and because I am white.
I get the feeling that he was trying to take the coworkers side because they are both minorities.
He also repeatedly tells me that just because I am female doesn't mean they aren't going to investigate. Blah blah. I never even said anything about that! I'm an intellegent person, I believe in equality and I feel that men and women should be treated equally, but he's acting like I think that because I'm female I'll be getting away with this.
He just keeps shoving the fact that I am a woman being accused of sexual harassment down my throat. I feel like he is out to make an example of me because it's so rare that a man complains about sexual harassment from a woman.
I plan on putting my 2 week notice in in 2 days. These governmental investigations take weeks to come to a conclusion. I want to quit before I am fired because I have big plans for my future and am scared to death to be fired because of sexual harassment. I want to work for the federal government and they do serious background checks.
Who would hire me
after being fired for sexual harassment!? Or racial discrimination!? I'm terrified!
I also want to quit because I feel so degraded and slandered. So many people read that email that my ex-coworker wrote about me doing deplorable and nasty things. Now I am so uncomfortable in my workplace.
My coworkers give me wierd looks and now people try to avoid me, like they think I'm a whore now. It's terrible.
Should I request a different investigator because I feel that the current one is discriminating against me and being unfair? (It would leave documentation that I felt this way at least for unemployment benefit sake)(Like I exhausted all resources to keeping my job)
I could also write an email to my bosses saying I feel uncomfortable in the workplace etc... and this would leave a paper trail.
Thanks Chris for taking the time to read this. What do you think?
What I think is that you need to contact a lawyer.
I do not think you should quit because unemployment is not the entity that decides whether harassment exists or not. They only care that the employer will tell them you quit in the middle of an investigation that had not reached any conclusions yet.
But if you are not yet, you need to start writing everything down. You need to take it to a lawyer because if you were the first to make an official complaint against this guy and there was corroboration from another woman that he is odd .. not to mention the fact the the guy has quit .. the investigator may be seen to be acting in a retaliatory way. And when anyone is acting as an agent of the employer .. it's just like the employer did it .. but the problem is we have to tell someone up the food chain .. so they know.
Honestly, I wish I could help, but since you work for government and given what is happening to you .. I truly, truly suggest you talk to an attorney.
I think I briefly address harassment and when you should contact an attorney if quitting is on your mind on this page
. (I might have removed it .. can't remember.)
Should you request another investigator .. Personally, I'm surprised the employer did not assign a woman to investigate in the first place so there would be no opportunity for you to claim the investigator might himself be "sexually harassing" you.
But I think I would first talk to an attorney and let him make the request.
A good attorney can do some pretty amazing things on your behalf .. there doesn't even need to be an irrefutable position .. they just need to be able to put the fear of God into the employer .. aka lawyer fees, bad press, a real sharp pain in the ass ...
Florida does have a statute which might (not sure about this situation) allow you to ask for your attorney fees.
I apologize Annon that all I can really do is give you something to think about.
I have no answers.