What would be "good evidence" to fight for unemployment if I was fired due to willful misconduct?
I worked for my employer for 8 months. I did anything, everything and more for them and loved what I did. I one day suggested that I'd like to eventually be an office manager to my direct boss and the owner of the practice. After that my direct boss(who happened to be the owner's wife) decided to badger me about stupid things. For example: She first told me when I was hired that I could ask either her or the owner(her husband) whenever I needed a day off. Then when the day came and I needed a day off for an urgent medical appointment I called and texted both of them and neither responded so I canceled the Appt... an hour later my boss says no, 30 minutes after that the owner says yes. I politely confront him and told him what she said and it stirred this "feud" of sorts amongst them. At the end of it all I was told to ask him if I needed time off. Months later, right before she fires me, she tells me that I should go to her about time off because he need not concern himself about those things. I felt as if I was working in a hostile working environment because everyday she was there(only about 10 hours a week) she would bring up the same things to me "you should keep a notebook" when I always had and had it in front of me when she would say it. She would make me do a lot of things that were listed in her job description. I tried to go to the owner about it but she always intercepted me or he would say if I had a problem to take it up with her. I was never disciplined orally or written because I excelled at my job and worked hard to ignore the comments she would make to me. Finally she emailed me after a discussion we had about some minute problem and wanted to rehash it again. I snapped or at least I didn't hold back. I needed to confront
this so that we could get back to a working relationship. I emailed her back to respectively tell her she was hurting my feelings and that I felt she was "badgering" me at times just for the sake of doing it but that I really hoped I could continue to work there and do my job like I always had and try to better myself any way she saw fit. She drove to my house the next day and said "I'm letting you go do you want to know why or do you want to get your stuff out of my car?" She said she was firing me for "insubordination-willful misconduct" I've got a hearing to fight the determination in 9 days. I honestly don't think I was rude in the email but even if she or they(unemployment office) think I was, can I fight it at all? I did it privately and in a way to try and stop the harassment. Do I stand a chance? She also gave me 2 weeks pay in lieu of notice. I didn't think that someone fired under those terms qualified for it. At least it says that they wouldn't be in the employee manual. Sorry if this is so long I just didn't know what was relevant and what wasn't. Thank you so much for any help you can give.
Yes, of course you stand a chance and yes of course you can fight this .. and very possibly win.
What is insubordination? It's a refusal to comply with a reasonable directive or instruction from your boss.
It is not an email which is trying to address an ongoing problem as long as the email was respectful and doesn't display a "bad attitude".
No written warnings .. simply mean it will be a she said / she said affair at the hearing.
Stick to the point though. "The final incident" .. it seems .. due to the lack of documentation to be the only incident that should matter.
The only thing I don't know for sure is what your email contained .. exactly.